Let’s be honest… have you ever said, “I’m just waiting on God” when, deep down, you were actually just avoiding something?
Be real with yourself.
📌 Didn’t prepare for the interview? “God will make a way.” 📌 Know you should apologize but don’t want to? “God understands my heart.” 📌 Keep pushing off that difficult decision? “I’m praying about it.” 📌 Haven’t even started on that dream? “I’m waiting for confirmation.”
Sounds spiritual, right? Except… what if God is actually waiting on YOU?
🔥 Moses tried this. Faced with the Red Sea and Pharaoh’s army behind him, he cried out to God. You’d think God would respond with some divine encouragement, right? Nope.
“Why are you crying out to me? Tell the Israelites to move on!”
(Exodus 14:15)
Read that again.
MOVE. ON.
Faith is NOT passive.
Faith is Noah building the ark before he saw a single raindrop.
Faith is David picking up stones before he faced Goliath.
Faith is Peter stepping out before he walked on water.
Some of us want miracles, but we’re too afraid to move.
We sit and wait, asking God to do something, while God is asking us to do something.
Yes, God opens doors—but will you actually walk through them?
So here’s the real question: Is your waiting truly faith? Or is it fear disguised as faith?
What’s one thing you’ve been “leaving to God” that He’s actually asking you to act on?
Let’s be honest—if they removed hell from the equation today, would some people still be Christians?
Or would there be a massive “Back to Sender” movement, with people returning their faith like a faulty Jumia package? 😅
Because, truth be told, for many, Christianity feels more like an insurance policy than a love relationship.
“Make heaven!” That’s the anthem. And for some, it’s not because they love Jesus—it’s because they don’t want to fry in hell like akara.
But wait… is that really the point?
The Fear Factor: Hell as a Motivator
Ah, Nigerian church settings. You know how it goes:
🔥 “If you die in sin, my brother, my sister, FIRE!” 🔥
🔥 “Eternal torment! Gnashing of teeth! You will remember this sermon in hell!” 🔥
You start imagining yourself inside one big suya grill, and immediately, you repent.
In fact, some people’s whole spiritual life is built on “God, please, I don’t want to miss heaven” rather than “God, I just want to know You.”
And let’s not lie—it works. Fear gets people to the altar, to the front row, to the night vigil. But does it change hearts?
Because if fear alone could transform people, why do some still sin secretly, just with more caution?
God Wants Lovers, Not Just Fearful Followers
Imagine a marriage where your spouse stays with you only because they’re scared of divorce. No love, just obligation.
That’s what a fear-based relationship with God looks like.
God doesn’t just want reluctant citizens who are afraid of jail; He wants passionate lovers.
Yes, hell is real. Yes, there’s judgment. But Jesus didn’t die just so we could avoid hell. He died so we could know Him, love Him, and live in Him.
That’s why Scripture says:
“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment.”
1 John 4:18
Real Christianity is not about running from hell; it’s about running into God’s love.
So, Should We Ignore Hell Completely?
Nope. Fear of consequences is natural. Even Jesus warned about hell. But it’s supposed to be a secondary motivator, not the main reason we follow Him.
If all we have is fear, then our faith is built on insecurity, not intimacy.
What’s Driving Your Faith?
Ask yourself:
Do I love Jesus, or am I just scared of judgment?
Do I obey God out of delight or just duty?
If heaven was just about being with Jesus and not golden streets, would I still want to go?
Maybe it’s time to stop running from hell and start running toward the One who loves you more than life itself.
Over to You!
Let’s gist. Have you ever caught yourself serving God out of fear instead of love? What’s your experience with Nigerian-style fire-and-brimstone preaching? Share in the comments! 🚀🔥
You ever met one of those Christians who would rather let someone walk all over them than risk seeming unkind? The kind that says “God bless you” even when they’re being scammed? The ones who smile through gritted teeth while someone blatantly disrespects them, thinking this is what Jesus meant by turning the other cheek?
Well… let’s talk about it.
Because somewhere along the line, we’ve confused Christlike kindness with spineless people-pleasing. And spoiler alert—they’re not the same thing.
The Problem With Being ‘Too Nice’
Christianity calls us to be kind, but not to be doormats. Jesus was love in human form, but He also flipped tables, called out hypocrisy, and spoke truth even when it made people uncomfortable.
So, why do we act like being nice is the ultimate Christian virtue, even when it comes at the cost of truth, boundaries, or even obedience to God?
Here’s the thing:
Kindness is a fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). But nowhere in the Bible is niceness listed as a virtue.
Jesus was kind, but He was also bold, direct, and unafraid to offend when necessary. He called the Pharisees “whitewashed tombs” (Matthew 23:27), flipped tables in the temple (John 2:15), and even told Peter, “Get behind me, Satan!” (Matthew 16:23).
There’s a difference between being loving and being afraid of conflict. Some Christians avoid speaking the truth because they don’t want to seem harsh. But truth without love is brutality, and love without truth is mere sentimentality.
Why Do Some Christians Struggle With This?
Misinterpreting “turn the other cheek” (Matthew 5:39). Jesus wasn’t saying, let people abuse you forever. He was teaching against revenge, not against standing up for righteousness.
Fear of rejection. Many believers equate being accepted by people with being approved by God. But the truth? Pleasing God often means displeasing some people.
Cultural conditioning. Some churches push an image of Jesus as a soft-spoken, always-smiling, never-confrontational guy. But the real Jesus? He had grace and grit.
The Balance: Love, But With Backbone
So, what’s the alternative? How do we walk the line between being Christlike and not being a people-pleaser?
Be kind, but truthful. Love doesn’t mean avoiding hard conversations. Speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15).
Set boundaries. Jesus withdrew from crowds, said “no” at times, and prioritized His mission over people’s expectations.
Don’t mistake passivity for patience. Being slow to anger doesn’t mean never standing up for what’s right.
Final Thought: Jesus Wasn’t ‘Nice’—He Was Good
Niceness avoids discomfort. Niceness values approval over truth. Niceness bows to pressure instead of standing in conviction.
But Jesus? He wasn’t just nice—He was GOOD. And being good sometimes means saying ‘no,’ speaking up, and refusing to compromise truth for the sake of peace.
So, maybe it’s time we stop obsessing over being nice and start focusing on being Christlike instead.
What do you think? Have you ever struggled with people-pleasing in the name of Christianity? Let’s talk in the comments! ⬇️
Let’s be real. Sometimes, it feels like God has His guys.
You pray, fast, and even sow seed, but somehow, Sister Chinyere testifies again that she got a miracle alert—without praying! 😳
You hustle, stay faithful, and trust God, but Brother Samuel (who just repented last week) lands a dream job effortlessly.
Meanwhile, you’re like: “God, shey You dey whine me ni?” 😭
So… does God play favorites?
God’s VIP List?
If we’re being honest, some Bible verses seem to suggest that God does, in fact, have special people:
📖 “Jacob I loved, but Esau I hated.” – Romans 9:13 📖 “David is a man after My own heart.” – Acts 13:22 📖 “The disciple whom Jesus loved…” – John 13:23 (John was clearly feeling himself 😂)
So, is God partial? Does He pick and choose His favorites while the rest of us just manage?
Favoritism vs. Favor
First, let’s clear something up—God doesn’t have favorites the way humans do. But He does give favor.
And favor isn’t random; it’s a response to alignment, purpose, and relationship.
Think about it:
Abraham left everything to follow God—so God made him a father of nations.
David spent years seeking God in the wilderness—so God anointed him as king.
Mary was highly favored, not because she was lucky, but because she was chosen for a divine assignment.
Favor isn’t about God picking names out of a hat; it’s about walking in step with Him.
But Why Do Some People Seem to Get More? 🤔
Some reasons include:
1️⃣ Assignment-Specific Favor: God gives more to those carrying bigger responsibilities. Think of Joseph—he suffered for years because his favor was tied to a nation-saving destiny.
2️⃣ Closeness Brings More: James 4:8 says, “Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you.” If you sit at the front row of grace, you’ll hear more and receive more.
3️⃣ Kingdom Economy: Some people understand and apply spiritual principles better—like generosity, obedience, and faith—so they reap the rewards.
So, What About Me?
Here’s the good news: God isn’t hoarding blessings for a select few. His table is big enough for everyone.
You don’t have to be the next David or Esther to be loved by God. In fact, you already are:
📖 “For God so loved THE WORLD…”
(John 3:16)
No VIP section, no exclusives. Just open invitation.
The real question is—are you sitting at the table or just staring from afar?
Your Turn!
Have you ever felt like God was favoring others over you? What’s your experience with divine favor? Drop your thoughts in the comments! 🚀🔥
Ohhh, this is going to ruffle some feathers—but hey, truth has a way of doing that!
Let’s be real: we all know that one Christian who has been “born again” for 15 years but is still as impatient, rude, or unkind as ever. Maybe it’s a church leader who preaches fire on Sunday but is a nightmare to deal with on Monday. Or maybe—let’s be honest—sometimes that person is us.
So… why do some Christians never seem to change? Shouldn’t faith in Jesus transform us? Is it possible to be in church your whole life and still act exactly the same?
Buckle up—we’re about to unpack this.
Why Do Some Christians Never Seem to Change?
Spiritual Stagnation, Fake Growth, and the Difference Between Information & Transformation
I. The Expectation vs. The Reality
Let’s start with the Bible’s expectation of a Christian life:
✔ New birth (John 3:3) ✔ Ongoing transformation (Romans 12:2) ✔ Growing in love, joy, patience, kindness… (Galatians 5:22-23)
Now, compare this with the reality we often see:
❌ People who have been Christians for years but still gossip, slander, or hold grudges. ❌ Churchgoers who know the Bible inside out but lack love, humility, or integrity. ❌ Believers who talk about spiritual growth but never actually change.
What’s going wrong? Let’s break it down.
II. The 5 Big Reasons Why Some Christians Never Change
1. They Confuse Knowledge with Growth
There’s a huge difference between knowing the Bible and being transformed by it.
👉 Some people attend every Bible study, memorize verses, and debate theology—but their hearts remain unchanged. Why?
Because knowledge alone does not transform.
Jesus rebuked the Pharisees—they knew Scripture better than anyone, but their hearts were far from God (Matthew 23:27).
Real growth happens when we OBEY the Word, not just study it. (James 1:22)
✔ Knowledge says: “I know I should forgive.” ✔ Transformation says: “I actually forgive.”
2. They Rely on Church Attendance Instead of Real Discipleship
Some people think that showing up to church = spiritual growth.
🚫 They listen to powerful sermons but don’t apply them. 🚫 They enjoy worship but don’t worship outside Sunday services. 🚫 They serve in church but neglect their personal walk with God.
Church attendance is GOOD—but without personal devotion, it’s just religion.
The early church didn’t just gather once a week—they lived out their faith daily (Acts 2:46).
✔ Christianity is not a spectator sport. ✔ You don’t grow just by watching others live for Jesus—you grow by walking with Him yourself.
3. They Don’t Deal with Hidden Sin
Some people don’t change because they won’t let go of secret sins.
✔ Unforgiveness? Keeps us stuck (Matthew 6:14-15). ✔ Pride? Blocks transformation (Proverbs 16:18). ✔ Addiction? Chains the soul (Romans 6:16).
Let’s be blunt: you cannot grow in Christ while holding onto sin.
If you refuse to let God deal with the root issues, you’ll keep repeating the same struggles, year after year.
The hard truth: 🚫 God won’t transform what you refuse to surrender.
4. They Lack Spiritual Hunger
Some people don’t change because they’re spiritually lazy.
👉 They want the benefits of Christianity (peace, blessings) but don’t want to put in the effort (prayer, fasting, seeking God).
✔ They want wisdom but won’t read the Bible. ✔ They want breakthrough but won’t pray. ✔ They want anointing but won’t spend time with God.
Here’s the thing: growth requires pursuit.
“You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.” (Jeremiah 29:13)
🔥 No hunger = No growth. 🔥
5. They Are Trying to Change Themselves (Instead of Letting God Do It)
This is huge. Many people try to change themselves instead of letting God transform them.
👉 They depend on self-discipline instead of God’s grace. 👉 They think trying harder will fix their spiritual life. 👉 They get frustrated when they keep failing.
But real transformation is God’s work, not ours.
“He who began a good work in you will carry it to completion.” (Philippians 1:6)
Our job? Surrender to Him. His job? Change us from the inside out.
✔ It’s not about striving—it’s about abiding. ✔ It’s not about struggling—it’s about surrender.
III. What’s the Solution? How Do We Truly Change?
If you’re tired of stagnant faith, here’s how real transformation happens:
1. Stop Just Listening—Start Doing
🚀 Don’t just hear the Word—apply it! (James 1:22) 🚀 Make small, daily choices to obey God, even when it’s hard.
2. Prioritize Relationship Over Religion
🔥 Growth isn’t about church attendance—it’s about knowing Jesus personally. 🔥 Spend time with Him in prayer, worship, and the Word—not just in services.
3. Be Brutally Honest With God
😨 Struggling with hidden sin? Confess it. 😨 Feeling spiritually dry? Tell Him. 😨 Need transformation? Ask for it.
The Holy Spirit is the One who changes hearts—but He won’t force transformation on you. You have to want it.
🔥 Your Turn! Let’s Talk 🔥
👉 Have you ever felt “stuck” in your faith? 👉 Which of these reasons do you relate to most? 👉 What practical step will you take TODAY toward real change?
Drop your thoughts in the comments! Let’s grow together. 🚀🔥
