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Why Did God Allow That? – Wrestling with Suffering, Pain, and the Problem of Evil

“If God is good, why did He let this happen?”

It’s one of the hardest, rawest questions people ask—whispered through tears, shouted in anger, or left unspoken in quiet despair. A tragedy hits, betrayal crushes you, suffering lingers, or loss rips away something dear. And deep inside, a question burns:

Why did God allow that?

For some, this question is intellectual—a theological puzzle to solve. But for many, it’s deeply personal. Maybe you’ve lost someone too soon. Maybe a dream shattered. Maybe life’s unfairness seems unbearable. You pray, you plead, and yet… nothing changes.

Where is God in all this?

1. The Hard Reality: We Live in a Broken World

Let’s start with a truth that no one enjoys hearing: this world is fallen.

God made the world good, but sin broke it (Genesis 3). From the moment Adam and Eve disobeyed, suffering, sickness, and death entered the world. And since then, things have been messy. The Bible doesn’t sugarcoat this:

Jesus Himself said,

“In this world you will have trouble”.

(John 16:33)

Paul calls creation “subjected to futility” (Romans 8:20) and describes it as groaning under the weight of brokenness.

This means pain is part of life on this side of eternity. Not because God delights in suffering, but because sin corrupted the world.

2. “But If God is in Control, Why Didn’t He Stop It?”

This is where things get really difficult. If God is sovereign, couldn’t He have prevented that car crash? That abuse? That diagnosis?

Yes. He could have.

But the Bible shows us that God doesn’t always intervene the way we expect. Instead, He allows human choices and natural consequences to unfold—sometimes with devastating results.

  • He didn’t stop Joseph’s brothers from selling him into slavery (Genesis 37).
  • He didn’t prevent Job from losing everything (Job 1-2).
  • He didn’t keep Jesus from the cross (Luke 22-23).

And yet… in every case,

He was working something greater through the pain.

3. God’s Plan is Bigger Than Our Pain

Let’s revisit Joseph. Sold into slavery by his own brothers, falsely accused, thrown into prison. Where was God?

Right there, turning the worst moment of his life into the very thing that saved millions from famine (Genesis 50:20).

Or Job. He lost his family, health, and everything he owned. Yet, in the end, he encountered God in a deeper way than ever before (Job 42:5).

And Jesus—beaten, mocked, crucified. It seemed like the greatest evil in history. But that very moment became the source of salvation for the world.

What does this tell us?

  • God sees beyond what we see.
  • Pain is not wasted.
  • What Satan or others intend for evil, God can use for good.

It doesn’t mean every tragedy will make sense immediately. Some things we won’t understand this side of heaven. But God is still in control, even when life feels out of control.

4. The Cross is God’s Answer to Suffering

When we suffer, we want answers. But God doesn’t just give an explanation—He gives Himself.

Jesus didn’t stay distant from suffering; He stepped into it.

  • He was betrayed, abandoned, beaten, and crucified.
  • He felt the depths of human pain.
  • On the cross, He cried out: “My God, my God, why have You forsaken Me?” (Matthew 27:46).
God doesn’t just watch our suffering—He experienced it Himself.

This is why Christianity is different from every other worldview. Many religions say, “Just accept suffering.” Atheism says, “Suffering is meaningless.” But Jesus says, “I have suffered with you, and I will redeem it.”

5. “So What Do I Do With My Pain?”

If you’re hurting, here’s what you can do:

  1. Be honest with God. He can handle your anger, doubt, and confusion (Psalm 13).
  2. Trust that He sees the bigger picture. Even if you don’t understand, He is working all things for good (Romans 8:28).
  3. Remember, suffering is temporary. This world is not the final chapter (Revelation 21:4).
  4. Lean on Jesus. He’s been there, and He walks with you now (Hebrews 4:15-16).

God doesn’t promise a pain-free life. But He promises that one day, all pain will end. Until then, we hold onto Him.

So, why did God allow that?

Maybe we won’t fully know. But we know who He is. And that is enough.

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Speaking Up Without Losing Your Faith: When to Talk, When to Stay Silent, and How to Say No with Grace

Some people think being a Christian means being a doormat. That we must swallow insults, tolerate nonsense, and say yes to anything—just to “keep the peace.”

But let’s be real. Jesus was not a people-pleaser. He was kind, but He wasn’t “nice” in the worldly sense. He corrected. He rebuked. He set boundaries. And He still managed to walk in love.

So, what do you do when:

  • Someone speaks to you anyhow?
  • People take you for granted?
  • A leader asks you to do something that’s against your values?

Do you just smile and endure? Or do you speak up?

Let’s talk.

1. When People Disrespect You: To Clap Back or Not?

We all have that one person who loves to test our patience. Maybe it’s that colleague who talks down on you, the relative who always has something rude to say, or the friend who constantly takes you for granted.

Now, let’s be clear: Swallowing disrespect is not the same as humility.

Jesus was humble, but He was not a pushover. He didn’t just let people talk to Him anyhow. When the Pharisees tried to trap Him, He shut them down with wisdom (Luke 20:20-26). When Peter tried to rebuke Him, Jesus corrected him sharply (Mark 8:33).

So, yes—you can and should speak up. But how?

Instead of insulting back, try this: 

“I’d appreciate it if you spoke to me with respect, just as I do to you.”

Instead of keeping quiet and feeling bitter, try this:

 “I don’t like how that sounded. Can we try again?”

It’s not about pride. It’s about boundaries. You can be firm without being rude.

2. When Leaders Ask You to Do What’s Wrong

This one is trickier. What if it’s your pastor, boss, or mentor asking you to do something that goes against God’s will?

You don’t want to be disrespectful, but you also don’t want to disobey God.

Look at David. Saul was his king, but when Saul started acting crazy, David refused to dishonor him—but he also refused to obey his madness (1 Samuel 24:6).

So, what’s the balance?

✔ Respect their position, but obey God first. If what they’re asking you to do is wrong, say no—but say it with humility.
✔ Honor does not mean silence. If you disagree, voice your concerns respectfully. You don’t have to embarrass them.

Try this:

“Sir/Ma, I deeply respect you, but I can’t do this because it goes against my beliefs.”
“I appreciate all you’ve done for me, but my conscience won’t allow me to take this step.”

Simple. Clear. Respectful. But firm.

3. Saying No Without Feeling Guilty

Ever felt bad for saying no? Like, “Maybe I should have just obeyed, so they don’t feel bad”?

That’s manipulation talking.

The Bible says we should “speak the truth in love” (Ephesians 4:15). That means:
✔ Be clear (no need to dance around the issue).
✔ Be gentle (no need for insults).
✔ Be firm (no need to apologize for doing the right thing).

If someone is taking you for granted, using you, or leading you away from God’s path, speak up. But do it in a way that reflects Christ—strong, but full of grace.

Final Thoughts

Being a Christian doesn’t mean letting people walk over you. It means walking in wisdom. Knowing when to speak, when to stay silent, and when to say no with grace.

So, have you ever had to say no to a leader? How did you handle it? Or have you ever spoken up against disrespect without losing your peace?

Let’s talk in the comments!

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“What If I Can’t Forgive?” – Wrestling with Unforgiveness Despite Biblical Commands

🔥 “Just forgive and move on.”

Ever had someone say that to you, and you just wanted to… lay hands (not the prayerful kind) on them? 😤

Yeah, me too.

Forgiveness sounds easy until you’re the one who’s been betrayed, backstabbed, abandoned, or broken beyond words.

We know what Jesus said:

  • 📖 “Forgive seventy times seven.” (Matthew 18:22)
  • 📖 “If you do not forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” (Matthew 6:15)

But what if… I just can’t?

What if the pain still burns?
What if the wound is still fresh?
What if they never apologized?

What if I don’t even want to forgive? 😤

1. But They Don’t Deserve It! (Spoiler: Neither Do We 🤦🏽‍♂️)

Let’s be honest—some offenses feel unforgivable.

🚪 A trusted friend betrays you.
💔 A parent wounds you deeply.
⚖️ A person ruins your reputation.

And yet, here comes Jesus, asking us to forgive.

Not because they deserve it,
But because we didn’t deserve God’s forgiveness either.

📖 “While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

(Romans 5:8)
Forgiveness isn’t excusing their sin—it’s releasing them from being the lord over your heart.

It’s trusting God to handle justice instead of letting bitterness consume you.

Because, let’s be real—bitterness feels powerful, but it only poisons the one holding it.

2. “But I Still Feel Angry!” (Good. That Means You’re Human.)

Forgiveness isn’t pretending like nothing happened.

David didn’t fake-smile at Saul while dodging spears. 🏹
Jesus didn’t laugh off Judas’ betrayal. 💔
Even God expresses righteous anger. 🔥

Forgiveness isn’t a one-time event—it’s a process.

It’s choosing, every time the anger flares up, to say:


“Lord, I release them into Your hands.”

And some days, you’ll need to say that 147 times before breakfast. 😩

3. What If I Don’t Feel Forgiving? (You Don’t Have To—Yet.)

Ever notice how Jesus never said,
“Feel forgiveness in your heart, and then act on it.”

Nope. Instead, He commands us to do it.

Because forgiveness isn’t an emotion.
It’s an act of obedience.

When you start praying for the person who hurt you—
Not “Lord, break their legs” but “Lord, heal them”—
Your heart slowly starts to change.

It might take time.
It might take prayer.
It might take tears.

But you’ll wake up one day and realize…
The bitterness has loosened its grip.

And in its place? Freedom.

4. But What If They Hurt Me Again? (Set Boundaries, Not Barriers.)

Forgiveness doesn’t mean handing them a free pass to hurt you again.

It doesn’t mean ignoring wisdom or setting yourself up for more damage.

🔒 Forgiveness is releasing the offense.
🚪 Boundaries are protecting your heart.

Jesus forgave freely, but He didn’t entrust Himself to everyone. (John 2:24-25)

You can love someone from a distance.
You can pray for someone and not let them back into your inner circle.
You can forgive and still be wise.

Because grace isn’t naïve. It’s just freeing.

Final Thought: “But What If I’m Not Ready?”

Then be honest with God.

“Lord, I want to obey You, but I’m struggling.”
“Help me forgive, because I can’t do it on my own.”

Because at the end of the day, forgiveness isn’t natural.

It’s supernatural.

And the One who forgave you first…
Will give you the grace to do the same.

What Do You Think?

  • Have you ever struggled to forgive?
  • What helped you let go?
  • Do you think forgiveness always means reconciliation?

Drop a comment—let’s wrestle through this together. ⬇️🔥

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Faith in Action or Just an Excuse?

Let’s be honest… have you ever said, “I’m just waiting on God” when, deep down, you were actually just avoiding something?

Be real with yourself.

📌 Didn’t prepare for the interview? “God will make a way.”
📌 Know you should apologize but don’t want to? “God understands my heart.”
📌 Keep pushing off that difficult decision? “I’m praying about it.”
📌 Haven’t even started on that dream? “I’m waiting for confirmation.”

Sounds spiritual, right? Except… what if God is actually waiting on YOU?

🔥 Moses tried this. Faced with the Red Sea and Pharaoh’s army behind him, he cried out to God. You’d think God would respond with some divine encouragement, right? Nope.

“Why are you crying out to me? Tell the Israelites to move on!”

(Exodus 14:15)

Read that again.

MOVE. ON.

Faith is NOT passive.

Faith is Noah building the ark before he saw a single raindrop.
Faith is David picking up stones before he faced Goliath.
Faith is Peter stepping out before he walked on water.

Some of us want miracles, but we’re too afraid to move.

We sit and wait, asking God to do something, while God is asking us to do something.

Yes, God opens doors—but will you actually walk through them?

So here’s the real question: Is your waiting truly faith? Or is it fear disguised as faith?

What’s one thing you’ve been “leaving to God” that He’s actually asking you to act on?

Let’s talk in the comments. 🔥

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Afraid of Hell or in Love with God? What’s Really Driving Your Faith?

Let’s be honest—if they removed hell from the equation today, would some people still be Christians?

Or would there be a massive “Back to Sender” movement, with people returning their faith like a faulty Jumia package? 😅

Because, truth be told, for many, Christianity feels more like an insurance policy than a love relationship.

“Make heaven!” That’s the anthem. And for some, it’s not because they love Jesus—it’s because they don’t want to fry in hell like akara.

But wait… is that really the point?

The Fear Factor: Hell as a Motivator

Ah, Nigerian church settings. You know how it goes:

🔥 “If you die in sin, my brother, my sister, FIRE!” 🔥

🔥 “Eternal torment! Gnashing of teeth! You will remember this sermon in hell!” 🔥

You start imagining yourself inside one big suya grill, and immediately, you repent.

In fact, some people’s whole spiritual life is built on “God, please, I don’t want to miss heaven” rather than “God, I just want to know You.”

And let’s not lie—it works. Fear gets people to the altar, to the front row, to the night vigil. But does it change hearts?

Because if fear alone could transform people, why do some still sin secretly, just with more caution?

God Wants Lovers, Not Just Fearful Followers

Imagine a marriage where your spouse stays with you only because they’re scared of divorce. No love, just obligation.

That’s what a fear-based relationship with God looks like.

God doesn’t just want reluctant citizens who are afraid of jail; He wants passionate lovers.

Yes, hell is real. Yes, there’s judgment. But Jesus didn’t die just so we could avoid hell. He died so we could know Him, love Him, and live in Him.

That’s why Scripture says:

“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment.”

1 John 4:18
Real Christianity is not about running from hell; it’s about running into God’s love.

So, Should We Ignore Hell Completely?

Nope. Fear of consequences is natural. Even Jesus warned about hell. But it’s supposed to be a secondary motivator, not the main reason we follow Him.

If all we have is fear, then our faith is built on insecurity, not intimacy.

What’s Driving Your Faith?

Ask yourself:

  • Do I love Jesus, or am I just scared of judgment?
  • Do I obey God out of delight or just duty?
  • If heaven was just about being with Jesus and not golden streets, would I still want to go?
Maybe it’s time to stop running from hell and start running toward the One who loves you more than life itself.

Over to You!

Let’s gist. Have you ever caught yourself serving God out of fear instead of love? What’s your experience with Nigerian-style fire-and-brimstone preaching? Share in the comments! 🚀🔥