Let’s be honest—if time were money, many of us would be in serious debt.
We scroll endlessly on our phones, binge-watch series like it’s a divine assignment, and engage in arguments that add no value to our lives. Yet, when it’s time to pray, read the Bible, or actually do something meaningful, we suddenly have “no time.”
But here’s the reality: Time is a gift from God, and how we use it is a reflection of our priorities.
The Reality Check We Avoid
Imagine standing before God one day, and He asks, “What did you do with the time I gave you?”
What’s your answer?
“I watched 4,562 TikTok videos.”
“I mastered all the football transfer gossip.”
“I had long debates on Twitter about who is the GOAT—Messi or Ronaldo.”
But did we invest in things that matter? Did we build character, serve others, love people better, or deepen our relationship with God?
Ephesians 5:16 says, “Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days.”
Are we doing that?
Biblical Time Management vs. Time Wasting
Jesus lived 33 years and transformed the world. Paul had limited time and still spread the gospel across continents. But in today’s world?
We waste hours overthinking instead of acting.
We delay obedience, saying, “I’ll do it later,” until later never comes.
We spend time on meaningless things and call it “rest.”
Yes, rest is important. But there’s a difference between rest and waste.
Nigerian Reality: Time and Procrastination Wahala
In Nigeria, we have a phrase: “I go do am later.”
That later never comes. We carry over important things like we’re students avoiding deadlines.
God is calling you to start that business? “I go reason am.”
He’s telling you to evangelize? “Next time.”
You have an exam? “I still get time.”
Before you know it, 10 years have passed, and nothing has changed.
How to Start Managing Time Biblically
Start Your Day With Purpose – Don’t just wake up and see how the day goes. Pray, set priorities, and attack the day with intentionality. (Psalm 90:12 – “Teach us to number our days.”)
Cut the Excuses – If something is important, you’ll make time for it. If it’s not, you’ll make excuses. (Ecclesiastes 11:4 – “Whoever watches the wind will not plant.”)
Reduce Time Wasters – Social media, endless gossip, pointless debates—cut them down!
Use Small Moments Wisely – Read your Bible while in transit. Pray while cooking. Listen to sermons during traffic. Those “idle” moments can become God moments.
Act Now, Not Later – The biggest lie we tell ourselves is “There’s still time.” Jesus said, “We must do the works of Him who sent me while it is day; night is coming when no one can work.” (John 9:4)
Final Thoughts: The Clock is Ticking
One day, our time on earth will be up. We won’t get a rewind or extra credit for time wasted.
So… What are you doing with the time God gave you?
We all have wounds—emotional, psychological, or even spiritual. Life has bruised us, betrayed us, abandoned us, or even humiliated us. Some have lost parents young, some have suffered abuse, some have been cheated, insulted, or cast aside.
And yet, those wounds can go two ways:
They can become weapons for transformation—used to help others, birth wisdom, and inspire change.
Or they can turn into poison—breeding bitterness, vengeance, and cycles of oppression.
But let’s be honest. Many Nigerians (especially on social media) have turned their wounds into AK-47s—shooting down anyone who reminds them of their past pain. “Dem do me, so I must do others.”
Now, let’s talk about how this plays out in different parts of life.
1. “I Suffered, So You Must Suffer” – The Cycle of Hardship
Nigerians love suffering—not because they enjoy it, but because they believe it’s the only way to prove strength. So, when people finally break free, instead of making life easier for others, they weaponize their past suffering.
Real-Life Scenarios:
A Nigerian parent says, “I walked 10km to school every day, so my children must suffer too. They should trek to school like I did.” Instead of using their success to help their kids, they repeat the cycle.
Senior students in Nigerian universities justify hazing and brutal bullying by saying, “We suffered as freshers, so you too must suffer.”
In workplaces, a boss who was overworked as a junior staff says, “I had no work-life balance, so you must work weekends too.”
In Nigerian churches, leaders refuse to mentor younger ones freely because “I struggled to get here. You too must suffer and find your way.”
➡️ Question: If pain taught you the value of ease, why are you making others suffer the same way?
2. “Nobody Helped Me, So I Won’t Help You” – The Scarcity Mindset
Nigeria has a serious problem with gatekeeping. People who struggle feel entitled to make others struggle too.
Real-Life Scenarios:
A successful entrepreneur says, “I built my business from scratch without anyone’s help, so why should I give you free mentorship?”
A government official who struggled to rise to power refuses to create policies that help young professionals. Instead, he makes sure the entry barriers are even harder.
A pastor who grew up in poverty preaches hardcore prosperity gospel, telling people that if they’re still poor, they’re not ‘sowing’ enough.
A rich relative ignores his struggling cousin, thinking, “Nobody helped me, so why should I help you?”
➡️ Question:Why do we hoard help instead of using our struggles to uplift others?
3. “Since I Was Oppressed, I Must Oppress Too” – The Abuse of Power
One of the biggest effects of weaponized wounds is when victims become oppressors.
Real-Life Scenarios:
A church worker who was once humiliated now abuses power, controlling younger members the same way they were controlled.
A firstborn child, who was treated harshly, starts bullying younger siblings because “I suffered as the eldest, so you too must learn.”
A lecturer, who was once a struggling student, now demands bribes, blocking others from progressing just because he suffered too.
A young woman, once body-shamed, now makes fun of others because “They did it to me too.”
➡️ Question:Should pain turn us into abusers? Or should it make us more compassionate?
4. “Men Are Scum, Women Are Gold Diggers” – The Relationship Wound Game
Social media is full of people bleeding on innocent bystanders.
Real-Life Scenarios:
A man who was heartbroken by one woman now preaches “Women are wicked. Use them before they use you.”
A woman who was cheated on once now tells young girls “Don’t love a man—just collect his money.”
A husband, who grew up with an abusive father, now sees his wife as a punching bag because “My mother endured, so you must too.”
➡️ Question:Should one bad experience define how you treat others?
5. “God Disappointed Me, So I Won’t Believe in Him” – Spiritual Trauma
Pain even affects faith.
Real-Life Scenarios:
A former choir leader, humiliated by church politics, now tells people “Church people are fake. Forget religion.”
A young man, who prayed for healing but lost his mother, now says “God doesn’t answer prayers.”
Someone who suffered under a harsh spiritual leader now rejects all forms of church authority.
➡️ Question:Is God to blame for the wickedness of men?
The Jesus Model: Turning Wounds into Healing, Not Weapons
Pain is real. Betrayal is real. But how we respond to it matters.
Let’s talk about Jesus:
He was betrayed but still forgave.
He was abandoned but still loved.
He was crucified but still saved.
➡️ If Jesus had weaponized His wounds, we’d all be doomed.
Instead of using His pain for revenge, He used it to save the world.
So, What Do We Do With Our Pain?
✅ Heal before you lead – Don’t pass on your trauma. ✅ Break cycles, don’t continue them – If you suffered, use that pain to help, not harm. ✅ Mentor, don’t hoard knowledge – Your struggle should make it easier for others, not harder. ✅ Forgive, but set boundaries – Don’t let pain turn you into what hurt you. ✅ Let pain make you better, not bitter.
Conclusion: Wounds Can Be Weapons or Tools—You Choose
Pain is like fire. It can burn and destroy or refine and strengthen. How we use it determines whether we heal or wound others.
So, ask yourself today:
🔥 Am I healing or hurting? 🔥 Am I breaking cycles or continuing them? 🔥 Am I using my wounds to bring change—or to cause more pain?
Because at the end of the day, our wounds will speak—whether in love or in vengeance.
Prayer Section & Scriptural Reflections
Prayer for Healing from Weaponized Wounds
“Father, I bring my wounds before You. The pain, the betrayals, the struggles—I lay them at Your feet. Heal my heart so I don’t pass on bitterness. Help me to use my experiences to uplift, not to destroy. Give me the wisdom to break negative cycles and lead with love. Teach me to forgive, to mentor, to give, and to help others rise. Let my wounds be tools for healing, not weapons for destruction. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Biblical Reflections on Healing from Pain
✅ Joseph’s Story (Genesis 50:20) – “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.” Joseph was betrayed by his brothers, sold into slavery, and imprisoned unfairly. Yet, he didn’t let pain turn into revenge—he used his suffering to save lives.
✅ Jesus’ Response to Betrayal (Luke 23:34) – “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” Even on the cross, Jesus forgave. His greatest wound became the world’s greatest healing.
✅ Paul’s Advice on Bitterness (Ephesians 4:31-32) – “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, and anger… Be kind and compassionate, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Pain does not justify cruelty.
Interactive Reflection Questions
Have I unknowingly passed on my pain to others?
What negative cycles from my past am I continuing today?
How can I turn my painful experiences into a force for good?
🔥 Drop a comment below—let’s talk about this. How have you seen people weaponize their wounds? Have you ever struggled with this yourself?
Let’s be real—some Christians can be bullies. 😳 Yeah, I said it. Not the type that steals your lunch money, but the kind that makes you feel like a spiritual cockroach before God. They swing their Bibles like battle axes, quoting verses faster than a WhatsApp forward, and before you know it—you’re questioning if you’re even saved.
But wait—how do we address this without falling into extremes? We can’t just dismiss correction (because real accountability is biblical), but we also can’t allow a culture where people are spiritually manipulated, guilt-tripped, and shamed into submission. So, let’s break it down:
1. WHO ARE SPIRITUAL BULLIES?
You know them. They could be the overly zealous church member who polices everyone’s behavior. The preacher who shouts, “You’re going to hell!” more than “God loves you.” Or the person who makes their personal convictions law for everyone else.
They operate in different forms:
🔹 The Legalist: “If you don’t wear a suit to church, you’re dishonoring God.” 🔹 The Guilt-Tripper: “So you’re telling me you didn’t fast for 40 days? Wow. Just wow.” 🔹 The Super-Spiritualist: “I had a dream that you need to sow a seed or your destiny is in danger.” 🔹 The Scripture Sniper: Always quoting verses out of context to attack, not to edify.
2. BIBLICAL EXAMPLES OF SPIRITUAL BULLYING
This isn’t a modern-day problem. Even Jesus had to deal with spiritual bullies—THE PHARISEES. These guys were the original religious gangsters. They made following God look like an extreme sport.
“They tie up heavy, burdensome loads and lay them on people’s shoulders, but they themselves are not willing to lift a finger to move them.”
📖 Matthew 23:4
Jesus wasn’t impressed. He called them hypocrites, blind guides, and whitewashed tombs (ouch!). Why? Because they made religion about performance, not relationship.
Another example? Job’s friends. Instead of comforting him, they took turns telling him why he must have sinned. Classic spiritual bullying—making assumptions about someone’s struggles and pushing the blame on them.
3. WHY DO PEOPLE BECOME SPIRITUAL BULLIES?
Nobody wakes up and says, “I want to be a religious tyrant today.” But here’s why it happens:
🔹 Insecurity: Some people use spirituality as a mask to cover their own struggles. If they can make you feel less holy, they feel more holy. 🔹 Control: Others love power. If they can make you dependent on them for “divine direction,” they get to play god in your life. 🔹 Miseducation: Some genuinely think they’re doing God’s work by being harsh. They confuse boldness with being rude. 🔹 Pride: “I have reached a level in Christ you will never understand.” Some people equate knowledge with superiority.
4. WHEN CORRECTION BECOMES MANIPULATION
Here’s the tricky part—Christians ARE called to correct each other (Galatians 6:1). But there’s a difference between correction and condemnation.
🔹 Correction says,
“Hey, I noticed something off. Let’s talk about it and grow.”
🔹 Condemnation says,
“You’re a disappointment to God. I don’t even know if you’re saved.”
One is love; the other is control.
5. ARE YOU BEING SPIRITUALLY BULLIED?
Ask yourself:
✅ Do they make you feel like your relationship with God isn’t good enough? ✅ Are they always focusing on your failures but never your growth? ✅ Do they use fear to keep you in check? ✅ Do they expect unquestioning obedience to their authority? ✅ Do they act like they have “exclusive” revelations you can’t get on your own?
If so, you might be dealing with a spiritual bully.
6. HOW TO DEAL WITH SPIRITUAL BULLIES (WITHOUT BECOMING ONE YOURSELF)
So what do you do? Because let’s be honest, our flesh wants to clap back. But God’s way is different.
✅ Stand Firm in Your Identity – Your relationship with God isn’t based on someone else’s approval. If they say, “You’re not spiritual enough,” remember: God calls you His child, and that’s enough (John 1:12). ✅ Know the Word for Yourself – So no one can use it against you. Jesus countered the devil’s misinterpretations with the right context (Matthew 4:1-11). ✅ Set Boundaries – It’s okay to say, “I appreciate your concern, but I’ll take this to God myself.” ✅ Correct in Love, Not Pride – If you see someone else being spiritually bullied, don’t fight pride with pride. Help them without becoming the same thing you’re against.
7. FINAL THOUGHTS: HOW TO SPOT A TRUE SPIRITUAL LEADER
Not everyone who corrects you is a spiritual bully. Some people truly want to help you grow. So how do you tell the difference?
A true spiritual leader: ✅ Leads with humility, not arrogance (Philippians 2:3-4). ✅ Encourages growth, not guilt (2 Corinthians 7:10). ✅ Points to Jesus, not themselves (John 3:30). ✅ Gives room for grace, not just rules (Romans 6:14).
Spiritual bullies push you down. True shepherds lift you up.
🚀 CLOSING THOUGHT:
Christianity is not about oppression; it’s about transformation. God didn’t save us so we could live in fear of “not measuring up.” He saved us so we could grow in Him—not under the weight of religious pressure, but in the freedom of His love.
So if you’ve been bullied by “super-spiritual” people, let this be your reminder: Jesus didn’t come to start a club for the perfect. He came for the broken, the weak, the outcast—and He calls them His own. 💙🔥
What do you think? Have you ever dealt with spiritual bullies? How did you handle it? Let’s talk! 👇💬
Let’s be real—have you ever tried to impress someone? Maybe a crush, a boss, or that overly spiritual brother in church who prays in King James English. You go out of your way, adjusting your behavior, choosing your words carefully, maybe even throwing in a dramatic “God bless you, my brother!” to sound extra holy.
But what about God? Can we impress Him?
What Does It Even Mean to Impress God?
Impressing someone usually means doing something that makes them go, “Wow!” So, can we do something so remarkable that God, the One who created galaxies with a whisper, looks at us and says, “Wow, I didn’t see that coming”?
Well… not exactly.
1. God is Not a Man
First off, God isn’t human. He isn’t moved by human standards of “impressive.” You could pray for ten hours straight, fast for 40 days, and still, your righteousness is described as filthy rags (Isaiah 64:6). Compared to His perfection, our best efforts don’t make Him raise an eyebrow.
Think about it:
Solomon built a temple so glorious people traveled from distant lands to see it. Did God go, “Wow, Solomon, I’m speechless!”? No, instead, He said, “Heaven is my throne, and the earth is my footstool. Where is the house you will build for me?” (Isaiah 66:1). Basically: “Nice temple, Solomon, but I own the universe.”
Job was the most righteous man of his time, yet when he finally encountered God, all he could do was repent in dust and ashes (Job 42:5-6).
2. But… God DOES Delight in Us
Now, here’s where it gets interesting. Even though we can’t impress God in the way we impress people, we CAN please Him. There are things that delight God:
Faith:
“Without faith, it is impossible to please God”
(Hebrews 11:6)
A Humble Heart:
“These are the ones I look on with favor: those who are humble and contrite in spirit”
(Isaiah 66:2)
Obedience:
“To obey is better than sacrifice”
(1 Samuel 15:22)
In other words, God isn’t impressed by our efforts but by our heart posture. It’s like a little child drawing a crayon picture for their father. The father isn’t impressed by the artistic skill (because, let’s be honest, it’s mostly scribbles), but he treasures it because it came from love.
3. So, Should We Stop Trying?
Some people might say, “If I can’t impress God, what’s the point of striving for righteousness?” But that’s the wrong question. We don’t pursue holiness to impress God; we do it because we love Him. Just like a husband doesn’t try to “impress” his wife by buying flowers—he does it because he loves her.
Paul says,
“I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me”
(Philippians 3:12)
It’s not about impressing God; it’s about growing closer to Him.
Final Thoughts: What Actually Moves God?
A broken spirit and a contrite heart (Psalm 51:17).
Genuine faith, like that of the centurion (Matthew 8:10).
True worship, not performance (John 4:23-24).
So, can a man impress God? No. But can he touch God’s heart? Absolutely. Not by showing off, but by surrendering. That’s the paradox of the Christian life—the greatest way to “impress” God is to stop trying and start trusting.
Now Over to You:
Have you ever tried to impress God? What do you think truly delights Him? Drop a comment and let’s talk!
Breaking the Stigma, Finding Biblical Encouragement, and Practical Steps Forward
“You Just Need More Faith…” 🤦🏽♂️
Ever heard this before? Someone opens up about their anxiety, depression, or burnout, and instead of getting real support, they’re met with:
“Just pray more.”
“Read your Bible, and you’ll feel better.”
“Maybe you need to fast and cast out that spirit.”
While prayer and Scripture are powerful (and essential!), they’re not magic pills that erase mental health struggles overnight. But in many Christian communities, the stigma around mental health is so strong that struggling believers feel ashamed, weak, or even unspiritual for battling issues like anxiety, depression, or PTSD.
So let’s talk about it. Can you love Jesus and still struggle mentally? Let’s unpack this with truth, grace, and practical wisdom.
1. Breaking the Stigma: Why Do Christians Struggle to Accept Mental Health Issues?
Many Christians believe that being saved means living in total peace, joy, and victory. So when someone struggles emotionally or mentally, the assumption is often:
✅ “They don’t trust God enough.” ✅ “They must have unconfessed sin.” ✅ “This is a spiritual attack.”
While spiritual factors can play a role, mental health is not just a spiritual issue—it’s a whole-person issue. Just like Christians can get physically sick, they can also experience emotional and psychological struggles.
Why Do We Struggle to Accept This?
Misinterpretation of Scripture 📖
Verses like “Do not be anxious about anything…” (Philippians 4:6) are often taken to mean that all anxiety is sinful, rather than recognizing that Paul was encouraging people to bring their struggles to God in trust.
Fear of Weakness 😔
Many believe that admitting mental health struggles makes them appear spiritually weak. But Paul himself said, “When I am weak, then I am strong” (2 Corinthians 12:10).
Over-Spiritualization of Everything 🙏🏽
While spiritual warfare is real, not every mental health struggle is a demon that needs to be cast out. Sometimes, it’s trauma. Sometimes, it’s brain chemistry. Sometimes, it’s just being human in a broken world.
2. Biblical Encouragement: Does the Bible Acknowledge Mental Struggles?
Absolutely! The Bible is full of godly people who battled deep emotional pain:
Elijah – This mighty prophet literally asked God to take his life (1 Kings 19:4).
David – Read the Psalms, and you’ll see a man who wrestled with deep sorrow (Psalm 42:11, Psalm 88:3-4).
Job – After losing everything, Job wished he had never been born (Job 3:11).
Paul – He described being “utterly burdened beyond strength” to the point of despair (2 Corinthians 1:8).
Jesus – In the Garden of Gethsemane, He said “My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death” (Matthew 26:38).
If even Jesus experienced deep emotional distress, how can we say that mental struggles mean someone lacks faith?
3. Practical Steps: How Faith and Mental Health Can Coexist
Since mental health struggles are real, how do we walk through them as believers?
A. Acknowledge and Accept Reality
✅ It’s okay to admit that you’re struggling. ✅ It doesn’t make you less of a Christian. ✅ It doesn’t mean you’re failing spiritually.
Denying reality only deepens the struggle. Instead, bring it into the light.
B. Seek Wise Counsel
God can work through pastors, therapists, and counselors.
Therapy isn’t a lack of faith; it’s wisdom. Even Solomon said, “In the multitude of counselors there is safety” (Proverbs 11:14).
If you broke your leg, would you refuse a doctor and just “pray it away”? No! The same goes for mental health.
C. Stay in Community
Isolation makes struggles worse. Stay connected to people who will remind you of truth, encourage you, and walk with you.
Find safe Christians who won’t judge but will support.
D. Take Care of Your Body and Mind
Sleep well, eat well, exercise, and take breaks.
Even Elijah needed food and rest before he could hear God clearly again (1 Kings 19:5-7).
E. Keep Seeking God
Sometimes, in deep struggles, prayer feels impossible. But even in the silence, God is near (Psalm 34:18).
Be honest with God. Cry out to Him, like David did in the Psalms.
Final Thoughts: You Are Not Alone
Being a Christian doesn’t mean living a problem-free life. It means having Christ with you through every struggle.
So, if you’re battling anxiety, depression, or any other mental health struggle, know this:
You are not alone.
You are not a failure.
God is not disappointed in you.
Jesus isn’t standing at a distance, shaking His head at you. He’s with you, walking beside you, holding you up, and leading you through.
So let’s break the stigma. Let’s be a Church where people can be honest about their struggles without fear. Because mental health struggles don’t mean you lack faith—they just mean you’re human, and God loves you in every season.
Now, Let’s Talk…
What has your experience been like in Christian circles regarding mental health? Have you felt supported, or have you faced judgment? Let’s break the silence—drop your thoughts in the comments! 💬👇🏽
